1. 08:03 15th Jul 2014

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    People can forgive toxic parents, but they should do it at the conclusion—not at the beginning—of their emotional housecleaning. People need to get angry about what happened to them. They need to grieve over the fact that they never had the parental love they yearned for. They need to stop diminishing or discounting the damage that was done to them. Too often, “forgive and forget” means “pretend it didn’t happen.”

    I also believe that forgiveness is appropriate only when parents do something to earn it. Toxic parents, especially the more abusive ones, need to acknowledge what happened, take responsibility, and show a willingness to make amends. If you unilaterally absolve parents who continue to treat you badly, who deny much of your reality and feelings, and who continue to project blame onto you, you may seriously impede the emotional work you need to do. If one or both parents are dead, you can still heal the damage, by forgiving yourself and releasing much of the hold that they had over your emotional well-being.

    At this point, you may be wondering, understandably, if you will remain bitter and angry for the rest of your life if you don’t forgive your parents. In fact, quite the opposite is true. What I have seen over the years is that emotional and mental peace comes as a result of releasing yourself from your toxic parents’ control, without necessarily having to forgive them. And that release can come only after you’ve worked through your intense feelings of outrage and grief and after you’ve put the responsibility on their shoulders, where it belongs.

    — Susan Forward, Toxic Parents, ch 9 (via fromonesurvivortoanother)
     
  2. 07:45

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    Food doesn’t taste better or worse when documented by Instagram. Laughter is as genuine over Skype as it would be sharing a sofa. Pay attention. Take in nature, hold someone’s hand, read a book. But don’t ever apologize for snapping a photo of a sunrise after a hike, or blogging about the excitement of having a crush, or updating your goodreads account. All of these things are good and should be celebrated. Smile at strangers on the sidewalk and like your friends’ selfies. It’s all good for the human spirit.
    — @cogitoergoblog  (via creatingaquietmind)

    (Source: magicalmatt)

     
  3. 07:40

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    fuckyoutubers:

    do you have those memories that are really cringey and you never speak of and something triggers the memory and you want to fucking wash your brain out with bleach

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  4. 07:37

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  6. 07:32

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    People want to believe gender is something that’s essential, and people repeat these essentialist ideas all the time. “Oh, women do that” and “Oh, men do that” and the reality is that all women don’t anything. We as individuals do what we do, you know, and sometimes that’s informed by gender and sometimes it’s just who we are. And I think all that just makes people really, really uncomfortable because they don’t want to think about who they are.
     
  7. 14:39 14th Jul 2014

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  8. 14:38

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I was curious about what exactly this was, so I went to the blog that posted this and found out that it’s actually a self-sufficient vertical garden that the community created together. Everyone that sees it is encouraged to give the plants some water and add their own if they’d like. Awesome.

    I was curious about what exactly this was, so I went to the blog that posted this and found out that it’s actually a self-sufficient vertical garden that the community created together. Everyone that sees it is encouraged to give the plants some water and add their own if they’d like. Awesome.

    (Source: theweofme)

     
  9. 22:17 12th Jul 2014

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    timelady-of-221b:

    joeeatspeople:

    yesidolikecoatsbigtime:

    Types of people who romanticize small town life:

    1. People who didn’t grow up in small towns

    #THE LOCALS AREN’T QUIRKY#THEY’RE RACIST

    #THERE’S NOTHING TO DO
    #EVERYONE’S ON DRUGS

    (Source: queencitysavior)

     
  10. 11:26 10th Jul 2014

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  12. 11:07

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  13. 11:05

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    iamcaradelevingne:

@freethenipplelives #freethenipple

    iamcaradelevingne:

    @freethenipplelives #freethenipple

     
  14. 11:03

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    thebsdboys:

dog chilling

    thebsdboys:

    dog chilling

     
  15. 20:23 9th Jul 2014

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